Say Yes to the Dress...

Hello, show for me to watch when Rory is nowhere near me! Like right now, it's nearly 1:00pm on a Sunday and he's still in bed.

And I'm sitting on the couch, watching Say Yes to the Dress and looking at dresses online... poor guy. He has no idea what he's gotten himself into.

Just for the record, I love doing this. No, we're not engaged yet. But I'm one of those girls who has no intentions of paying more than, say... $600 for a dress? I found one that I absolutely love on Etsy, and I've messaged the seller to ask how much it would cost to have it custom-made to fit my little-bitty frame.

The thought that so many women pay thousands and thousands of dollars for a dress (I just saw someone pay $11,500 US for a dress) absolutely floors me. You're going to wear it for one day! (Well, maybe two if you do any photoshoots after your wedding day...). Then again, these are people who spend $50,000 on a wedding.

And since there's about a 90% chance that we'll be paying for our (eventual) wedding ourselves, there's no way whatsoever I'll pay that much money. Hello, DIY-wedding. 

Now, I realize that most of my readers (including my parents, who creep my blog-- I know you read it, just click the "follow" button so you can get updates automatically!!) are probably bored to death by this, so I'm going to put the rest of this post behind a jump. Clickity clickity.

I've also become completely addicted to reading Offbeat Bride-- I'm not the type of girl who wants a 100% traditional wedding. Yes, I do appreciate and treasure a lot of the elements of weddings I've seen in the weddings I've attended before. but I've also seen a lot of really unique things that really hit home for me.

When I was about 12 or 13, my "cousin" Arthur married his wife, Stephanie. Their wedding wasn't a traditional ceremony, their minister read a story (I think? Honestly, it was a long time ago and I don't remember all the details...), his groomsmen were wearing more Celtic-style tops as opposed to tuxes... it was was awesome.

I love unique, colourful details like the colours in peacock feathers-- those classic, jewel-toned colours are SO flattering on both mine and Rory's skintones, too!! And birdcage veils. Having a huge bridal updo with a massive veil just isn't my thing... having my hair down, curled with a pretty fascinator and/or a small birdcage veil, however, DEFINITELY is. And an amazing pair of shoes that are brightly coloured and maaaybe without having a heel. Flat shoes are far more comfortable than most high heels if you're wearing them for 12+ hours.

Marquise Clip by sweetgrassmill on Etsy

And to be honest, we've talked about it a little bit. Our biggest problem is the difference in colour choices... he wants dark blood red. And while it looks good on both of us, I've seen it done in weddings so many times that it doesn't excite me anymore.

Remember this necklace that Rory surprised me with? THESE COLOURS = <3

That, however, we can deal with when it comes to it. And it's not like I want pink or anything as a colour. I promised my sister I wouldn't make her wear something really scary looking for a bridesmaid's dress, hehe. I might enjoy pink in real life, but I've seen my fair share of scary bridesmaid's dresses, and I like the idea of choosing a colour that is flattering on everyone involved. I'm a nice person most of the time, I promise!!

We've decided we don't want a huge, expensive wedding... but we want something that our equally huge and crazy families will enjoy... it's really important that his biological father's family is there because he is Roger's only son. Roger, his biological dad, died before he was born-- and he is the only living link to him. Plus, the Doucet part of his family is absolutely amazing and awesome, I love them all.

And my family is so widespread, I don't know who would come out, who wouldn't... it's kind of funny, really. Both of our families are so big and multifaceted.

We've decided that we'll do a relatively small ceremony and reception, and we've talked about having a party for our friends later as well, because there are so many people we care about and weddings are so bloody expensive. No idea whether that will be feasible, but you never know.

At any rate, I figure that if I can take care of certain details (such as a dress) before we have to think about paying for anything else, it'll be one less thing to make us go completely broke. Ha.

Post-Post Edit: and back to the subject of SYttD, the consultant Carmel annoys the beans out of me. She's so touchy and easily offended. What's wrong with getting help from someone with more experience when your ideas aren't making your client happy? Come on, woman, grow up a bit. It's not a shot against you as a person, it just means that someone else's ideas are helping!!